Feeling Fulfilled

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It took several years to get to the point in my life that I could honestly say,  “I feel fulfilled.”  This came through the realization that I was finally at peace by myself.  I could be anywhere at anytime and feel content to share that space alone and not feel desperate to have someone beside me.  This didn’t mean I didn’t want to share my life with someone.  I just didn’t feel the need to have someone there to feel fulfilled.

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I wasn’t a needy child nor adult.  I was very comfortable being independent and doing things by myself.  Maybe I had it easier than most, but I did notice I could have gone down a different path if I didn’t start questioning myself why I wanted certain things or people in my life.

I have experienced many women friends unable to feel truly happy unless they were in a relationship.  Many of them also felt the need to surround themselves with things, only to feel the same once they put the items in a closet.

Our media has inundated us with people desperately needing to have things or someone in their life; clothing, home goods, an animal, another piece of something they are after.

Yet, I also noticed many people always reaching for “something else,” again and again and still feeling lack.

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How can a complete Soul need someone or something to be fulfilled?

So, how did I finally feel okay with just ME?  It wasn’t easy.  I understood the basic teachings of Eckhart Tolle, however I had to learn that I could only impact those around me by being true to myself.  That meant that I had to accept that I wasn’t happy or content in a situation and it was up to ME to get me out of it- not the other person to change.

Expecting someone else to change is like expecting the Moon to shine a little brighter on a particular night;  it just doesn’t happen.

honestyI had to be honest with myself first.  I had to take a close look at my relationships and not just the romantic ones.  Ironically, I felt good about ending my marriage six years ago.  I knew I had grown up and out of the relationship, however it took time for me to be okay with knowing I was going to be alone as a single mom.  Keeping the lines of communication open with my daughter helped me with the inadequacies I was feeling without having a loving partner to support me.

It is not either a good or bad thing to want.  I would ask myself why do I need it or someone in the first place.  If there was discomfort in the answer, then it was based on emotional needs and not a physical need.  I realized anything that fed me emotionally had to be given an even more critical lens.

Did it/them make me feel happy, joyous or alive?  Then it was a good thing.

Was I feeling insecure, uneasy or unsure?  Then I knew to walk away from it.

Boat sunsetI want to live on a boat, and we are working on how this will manifest.  The desire for a boat comes from a place inside me that would like a new experience.  As a writer, I can be anywhere to practice my craft.  A boat would give me the opportunity to see things and have experiences I have not yet had.  I will most likely get to meet a lot of interesting people and have a lot of great things to write about.  This is all good.

If I don’t get the boat, will I be okay?  Of course, since I am still content with myself.  Will I get a boat?  Yes!

When you are fulfilled within, life doesn’t seem as stressful.  I see many opportunities and adventures before me, and I now know they are just the icing on the cake.

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